I used to live as a people-pleaser. It is difficult for me to say no when somebody asked for a help. But I started to realize that it was unhealthy.
Even though I believe in Karma, I don't think it works that way. You reap what you sow only applies if all of the parties involved are HAPPY.
When you help someone but you feel uneasy or it feels like you are being forced, then it just doesn't work. You can't stop thinking about when will things end - when it will never end unless you realize that you are not spreading love, but hatred. Hatred is what you sow, and you will not get anything back.
The first time they ask for help, they feel grateful. For the second time, they feel happy. The third time, they feel okay. And for the next consecutive time, they have considered it as a habit. They think they have the power to make things feel the same. And from that time onwards, whenever they say thank you, it is not a form of appreciation and gratefulness; it is simply a routine.
Learn to say no when you can't deal with the hardship. People who love you for who you are and truly want you to be around them are those who don't take benefit of what you have, but they are those people who think what they can give for you.
And they are truly the best kind of people who make you sincerely happy.
Don't you love my midi skirt from LO by Lovita Hilman? The print is super pretty right? I can imagine myself wearing heaps of outfit using the skirt.
Zara top, LO by Lovita Hilman skirt, Balenciaga bracelet, Céline bag, Charlotte Olympia heels
When people ask me "How to be a Blogger?", most of the time I have no single clue on how to answer them precisely. Blogging is not like Mathematics where you can simply follow the formula that everyone learns about. Blogging is a personal thing that comes from your heart. When you blog with passion, it reflects on your posts. Indeed every blogger has their own formula, their own charm. And no other blogger can ever take or substitute that.
I might not be the most suitable blogger to explain it all, considering my achievement that is not as many as what my seniors have, but I am learning and I hope you learn with me too. Don't waste time wondering or comparing because the sky has no limit. When will you be able to pursue your dream when you haven't even started yet, when you haven't believed in yourself?
My only suggestion is.. Just do it. No matter what. As time goes by, I'm sure you will find out what your deepest heart wants.
The doors of opportunity will only be seen when you start walking down the hall.
Zara top, Zara pants, Balenciaga bracelet, Givenchy bag, Charlotte Olympia heels
