Friday, July 11, 2014

Words That Can't Be Trusted

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I used to live as a people-pleaser. It is difficult for me to say no when somebody asked for a help. But I started to realize that it was unhealthy.
 
Even though I believe in Karma, I don't think it works that way. You reap what you sow only applies if all of the parties involved are HAPPY.
 
When you help someone but you feel uneasy or it feels like you are being forced, then it just doesn't work. You can't stop thinking about when will things end - when it will never end unless you realize that you are not spreading love, but hatred. Hatred is what you sow, and you will not get anything back.
 
The first time they ask for help, they feel grateful. For the second time, they feel happy. The third time, they feel okay. And for the next consecutive time, they have considered it as a habit. They think they have the power to make things feel the same. And from that time onwards, whenever they say thank you, it is not a form of appreciation and gratefulness; it is simply a routine.
 
Learn to say no when you can't deal with the hardship. People who love you for who you are and truly want you to be around them are those who don't take benefit of what you have, but they are those people who think what they can give for you.
 
And they are truly the best kind of people who make you sincerely happy.
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Don't you love my midi skirt from LO by Lovita Hilman? The print is super pretty right? I can imagine myself wearing heaps of outfit using the skirt.
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Zara top, LO by Lovita Hilman skirt, Balenciaga bracelet, Céline bag, Charlotte Olympia heels

108 comments:

Live-Style20 said...

nice look ;-)

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Sylwia VamppiV Błach said...

Wow, your outfit is fantastic! And you are so beautiful :)

Shannon Boyce said...

Oh my gosh, those nails are SO cute! I love the way they turned out.
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Deananda Ayusaputri said...

How I want your midi skirt :(((

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pola polajna said...

lovely < 3

Isabel Silva said...

Loooove the bag.
And the skirt is beautiful|

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Rosalinda Tjioe said...

Love your skirt mith! <3 so stunning! xx

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Adam said...

stylish outfit

mualliffachrozi said...

selaluuuu suka sma style Mitha, simple tapi kereeeeeeen:)...
sukses terus ya mitt:)

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trés beans said...

pretty green top! :) xx

Kathy Leonia said...

nice nails:D

Ania Zarzycka said...

Wow! You look so pretty <3333

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Vania Aprilia said...

the skirt looks super pretty! :D
and living as people pleaser won't make you happy, just live life at it is!

Love,
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ThoseGirlsNextDoor said...

You look so gorgeous here! i love that skirt and those shoes are to die for! x

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trés beans said...

it's hard to learn to say no. refreshing story. cute top too! xx

Janangelica L said...

Oh no, yes. you have to stop being a people-pleaser.. As you said, it's not healthy. I once was. But, I learn how to say NO.

Yeaaah, the pretty skirt. Love it!

infinity said...

love your nails <3!!

misskitin said...

Amazing green top and bag! Beautiful shoes and skirt! Very nice look :-)
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You look so greate! Your outfit is fantastic! :))
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Fede said...

love this outfit dear
you look so classy
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Michael Macalos said...

Love it!! another fun and inspiring post from you dear!! so much fun reading it ♥

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Nieperfekcyjna said...

great look!!!

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Sandra Kozłowska said...

wow! you look fantastic!

Petite Yeoja said...

Oh yep, I feel you. Actually it's kinda hard to say no, but when we always say, some people start to take us for granted.
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I love your skirt anyway! Look fab, xx

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VALERIE said...

That heels, perfect!!!

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Rima Tambunan said...

lovely skirt, Mitha!

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Leonita Nerisa said...

Love the skirt :)

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Wenny Yolanda said...

Simple but gorgeous, Mith, thats why i adore youu :)

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Elshakrist said...

Love this outfit color coordination! So so gorgeous! :) xx

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Ade Kurnianingrum Handika Putri said...

so beautiful :)
love your skirt <3

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Margaretha Liong said...

nice outfit ;)

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Riski Novianti said...

stunning!!

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Kayleigh Jean said...

I like the words you said,I'm similar too,someone wants or needs help,I'm the first one there,but you do also need to think of yourself sometimes. Your outfit is so gorgeous,chic and sophisticated,I love it and the quirky twist with those amazing nails,I have a huge love for nail art :) thanks so much for your sweet comment and I hope you have a wonderful day x

peach said...

simply amazing. Enjoying reading your posts, keep in touch! xx Peach

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Grape said...
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Grape said...

Lovely outfit :)

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Lazurowy Ptak said...

Your bag is amazing! Great look :)

Andrea Gina Karima said...

Your outfit and nails always make me jealous
love!

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Yulia Rahmawati said...

Yes, we have to say no sometimes. Love your bag Mitha :)

Atena said...

You look very nice :)

Marsh mallow said...

Wow great heels:)))

Nadya Joy Soetanto said...

Love the look :)

Vania Irene Huang said...

You are absolutely right! I am a people-pleaser as well and it is too difficult to say no, and those thank you is just a routine. I really like your thoughts, and btw, you look stunning! <3

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Wiola said...

Ohh, great your look.

Wiola said...

Ohh, great your look.

Meilina Utomo said...

Love your inspiring pictures ;)

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Królowa Karo said...

True. Assertiveness is an important skill in life.

Dika Dewi said...

love love love your skirt and pump.. xoxo

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Isa Machado said...

Fantastic look dear! :)

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Evita Topan said...

Always adore your look
love the heels and the trapezze


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Eva Silviana said...

I used to be like you as well, being a helper without any exception. I know it's unhealthy but you know, nothing can beat the sense of helping each other, Mitha :)

And anyways, I love your ooutfit! I always love the "dark" accent that you always put on your outfit. So into you!

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Chelovanka Graciella said...

Lovely skirt!

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kristina teo said...

nice outfit..

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Lena Jestem said...

Beautiful nails :)

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MATT said...

You're So Beautiful! ♥

Anna Bielaszewska said...

great look

Alice in Black said...

You look so pretty <3 Love your hair :)

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Ellyzabeth Tanaya said...

nice bag!! <3

Marija M. said...

Skirt is so pretty and elegant and your nails so so cute! xo
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Anna O. said...

Great look !

Beauty Unearthly said...

You look gorgeous, Love the colors, accessories, hair.. everything about this look! xxx

Jess said...

This outfit is beautiful, and I really love your nails! Your skirt is so pretty and it looks gorgeous with your top and your killer heels. I agree with what you're saying too. Being nice and doing good is one thing, but letting people walk over you is another thing, and it doesn't do anybody any good! xx

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ChocolateFashionCoffee said...

just love this outfit! great skirt, dear :)



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Monika Ozdoba said...

You look so stunning and gorgeous honey. Love it! ♥

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Alterations said...

fantastic look! great bag :)

Ricky said...

"You reap what you sow only applies if all of the parties involved are HAPPY." I can't tell you how much I agree with you on this. I don't believe that Karma is one sided!

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skyangel04051991 said...

Thanks for your comment ;)

I think I know what you mean, sometimes people need help but we can't help them and we should say "no" but we fear that they'll leave us and we do something even if we won't do it...

By the way,lovley outfit, blouse is my favorite ;)

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Michael Macalos said...

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sepatuholig-Grace Njio said...

Gorgeous look! I love the green color and how you mix match here...
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Joan M. said...

thank You for Your comment!
Your blog is also awesome!
beautiful pictures :)

Woolen Style said...

Super Outfit!

Christine Adelina Tjhia said...

It is hard to turn down when someone ask for a favor but sometimes you just have to put your foot down innit?

On the bright side... YOu are stunningg gurl that shoes and bags are to die for.. and I do fancy that skirt <33

Uber cute nails as usual
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Rasz said...

amazing look <3

Sera Brand said...

you nails are so cute!!

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Bianca said...

Cute top! xx

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Gracielle Ganda said...

love the look!

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PozytyWizja said...

I totally agree withi your opinion :)
I love this outfit! <3

PozytyWizja said...

I totally agree withi your opinion :)
I love this outfit! <3

aki! said...

It's interesting because so often, I try to be the friend who doesn't take advantage of others.

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Milkha Eunike said...

i'm trying so hard to say no but i can't :(
i always help my friends no matter what but i'll try to say no next time. thanks for your advice ci mith!
btw, love your whole look<3 especially the shoes!

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Anty Marka said...

I love it, shoes are amazing!!! and blouse my dreams :)
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Domischh said...

Love your bag! xx

Pati Pe said...

nice skirt :)

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Ubrana nie przebrana said...

the skirt is very nice! pretty look :)

Agnieszka M. said...

Amazing:)))
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Effe coco said...

Original and elegant look ;)

Olivia said...

Aw cute outfit! I love the colors in your skirt:) And your nails are the CUTEST ever! I wish I could do that with mine but I'm terrible at nail art.
xo Olivia

Ines Ariani said...

Lovely shoes n top mith!!

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Tiffany Ima said...

Oh my goodness, what a beautiful outfit!

Yes people-pleasing is nothing but exhausting! So good to be free of it!

Tiffany Ima
Style Honestly

Tiffany Ima said...

Oh my goodness, what a beautiful outfit!

Yes people-pleasing is nothing but exhausting! So good to be free of it!

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powerpinkyx said...

Amazing look :)

Lena Jestem said...

I love your shoes :)
Your nails are amazing! :)

Justyna Ludwiczak said...

Amazing bag and shoes! xxx

Anisacrament said...

Thats a really sweet of you! Hopping that a good karma will surround you all the time you did a good deed :)

Loving your charlotte olympia shoes soo bad!

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Love your look!
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Jennifer Jayne said...

Gorgeous outfit.
That skirt is prefect.

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That celine bag <3

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