I used to live as a people-pleaser. It is difficult for me to say no when somebody asked for a help. But I started to realize that it was unhealthy.
Even though I believe in Karma, I don't think it works that way. You reap what you sow only applies if all of the parties involved are HAPPY.
When you help someone but you feel uneasy or it feels like you are being forced, then it just doesn't work. You can't stop thinking about when will things end - when it will never end unless you realize that you are not spreading love, but hatred. Hatred is what you sow, and you will not get anything back.
The first time they ask for help, they feel grateful. For the second time, they feel happy. The third time, they feel okay. And for the next consecutive time, they have considered it as a habit. They think they have the power to make things feel the same. And from that time onwards, whenever they say thank you, it is not a form of appreciation and gratefulness; it is simply a routine.
Learn to say no when you can't deal with the hardship. People who love you for who you are and truly want you to be around them are those who don't take benefit of what you have, but they are those people who think what they can give for you.
And they are truly the best kind of people who make you sincerely happy.
Don't you love my midi skirt fromLO by Lovita Hilman? The print is super pretty right? I can imagine myself wearing heaps of outfit using the skirt.
I just don't get it. Is it that enjoyable to mock someone? So as I mentioned on my previous post, the upcoming presidential election in my country Indonesia is coming in a couple of weeks. And of course, at this rate, the two candidates Prabowo Subianto-Hatta Rajasa & Jokowi Dodo-Jusuf Kalla are campaigning to win. Nothing is wrong with that, completely nothing.
BUT THOUGH some fanatic ass supporters are really being a douchebag that makes me want to puke my ass off. Why? Search hashtag #DebatCapres on Twitter and you will see why. Dude seriously, who are you to comment so harshly? What is wrong with them to have a lot of aims for this country? Indeed this country needs a lot of system changes, is your stupidity level too high to not see that? And why do you comment on someone's public speaking? I dare you to speak in front of the expatriates, basically watched by the whole Indonesia - will you be able to speak better than them? Hahaha. Plus why are you people so sensitive when they say money is needed? Besides a clear system, money is of course needed to build a better country! To get money to the country will require an investment capital of course.
This matter is crucial because there are too much of black campaigns going on and the exchange rate has INCREASED, the value of Rupiah has gone down. USD equals to IDR 12.048 up to now - that is just crazy if you understand why it is important. Just how low do you want the economy to go down?
Bottom line is, if you have already decided between number 1 or 2, it doesn't mean that the world needs to know okay - especially if you did that by bringing down the opposite candidate. That is not Bhinneka Tunggal Ika, hey.
Don't you love my dress from Cloth Inc? I can wear this every day if I could <3
New York is a city with people who dress up effortlessly yet they look very modest and chic. They are never too much, nor less. Filled with art-deco buildings, New York has become one of the world's must-to-go city. Inspired with how the people dress, I present my photography and styling.
Other than the shoot, I created a video too! Read the story:
Jessica is a young woman who is very passionate in anything visuals. She applies make-up, wears pretty dresses, gets inspired and inspires people.
One day, her friend sent her a LINE message; asking her to hang out. She was finding an outfit inspiration and came across Letters To Juliet blog; where she found a lot of feminine outfits - that was very different compared to her style. But she has always been an open-minded person, and thus she decided to give it a shot.
Who knows, she turns into one beautiful woman who is ready to shine.
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